Chuckles… in true Wiseman style I couldn’t let slide a status message floating about on facebook… lol The message reads : DEPRESSION is not a sign of weakness. It is a sign that you have been trying to be strong for too long. Put this as your status if you know someone who has, or has had, depression. Most people won’t, as they see depression as an illness that can be caught.
Me being me, there was no way that was going to be let slide. Here is my take on it, which will doubtless get muchcos angry reactions… lol
Humbug! If you understand depression then you understand that it is a good 99% of the time self induced. If you understand depression you’ll also understand that the same 99% will read the first sentence, become angry, and not read the rest, and likely leave aggressive comments for reasons explained later!
A depressed person has the facility to break that depression themselves, but in this day and age where people are convinced by society (and in this case big pharma’s trying to sell anti depressants!) that they have no power, they come to believe it. They develop a dependency problem much the same as a compulsive gambler does, and then through a combination of the chemical brain imbalance induced by this, and a strong belief (not unlike a religious person does re their faith) that they are helpless they end up using the depression to define themselves.
Thus, to say that depression is “curable” by the individual altering their own state of mind / attitude, is seen as an attack on the individual, rather than a constructive solution, because it places the burden of responsibility upon themselves, both of the recovery, and of the fact that they allowed themselves to be in that state in the first place. These things are rectifiable though!
This is a choice, a cognitive one, however it is only cognitive if first you can explain to the sufferer that this option is available to them in a way which empowers them, rather than says something like, “You got yourself into this, you get yourself out!”, unless of course that person is bloody minded, in which case, bluntness works! There is a parallel here with self harming, which is unsurprising because both are linked. They are both symptoms that someone has been manipulated into the idea that they are not good enough the way they are.
Society does this excellently by applying parameters to everything, in order to keep the people safe, or in order to ostracise those who do not conform, depending upon how you view it.
The secret is to always love yourself, who you are, and what you are. Do not allow others power over you. Love yourself for who you are. This is the first step to avoid depression even entering your life, and the first step on the road to recovery from it.
There will be people hopefully who read this, who see the truth within it and maybe it will aid them in that first step, and there will be others, who are now so defined by their depression that they are gripped by fury at the idea of such a simple explanation to recovery. This is because depression fights rationality. It is its mortal enemy. Depression is pernicious, it eats away at the core of a person, but rationality renders that core inedible. Without fuel, depression cannot exist.
Hopefully, the people who have read through to the end of this will see that this weakness is it’s vulnerability, so that, if they know someone with depression, or even have it themselves, they can utilise this knowledge. Self empowerment and empowerment and support/ inspiration from others is the key. Because although “no one can make yourself feel bad about yourself unless you allow it”, once it’s already done, it’s a right bugger to come back from!